Commonly confused
Come by vs Come over
“Come by” and “Come over” look alike but pull in different directions. Here is the quick way to tell them apart — with examples, the mistake to avoid, and a check.
Which one do you mean?
By means obtain something or visit briefly; over means come to someone’s place, or be affected by a feeling.
Come by
Obtain something hard to get, or pay a short visit.
Come over
Come to someone’s home, or be suddenly affected (come over tired).
come by
- 1
Pay a brief visit to someone
- 2
Get or find something, often when it is difficult
Correct use
“Come by for a coffee.”
Drop in briefly for a coffee.
come over
- 1
Visit someone's house or place
- 2
Be felt by someone suddenly
- 3
Give a particular impression
Correct use
“Maya's friend came over for dinner that evening.”
Maya's friend visited her home for dinner.
Common mistake
Why don't you come by to my place for dinner?
Why don't you come over to my place for dinner?
To visit someone’s home, use come over.
Test yourself
“Come by for a coffee.” What does it mean?
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